Yes, it has been 10 months, but — I AM BACK!
I work for a company that was purchased, it has been called a merger, but we were bought. The integration and my new job began officially in April of this year; however the work and interviews and the unknowns all began October/November of 2010. It has turned my life quite upside down. My regular exercising, my healthier (although not perfect) eating habits, my personal development study, my fairly balanced life — went crazy, upside down! My new job in this merging company has meant travel, a new boss – who is actually a former boss (who luckily is AWESOME), a new team, and an entirely unclear and unknown, chaotic world. I have spent time on projects which have ran into brick walls of political spiderwebs. I have started projects only to find others are also doing the same thing. I have been given lead on projects that confusingly get pulled. Bottom line — totally and completely upside down.
I have missed my husband and daughter – a lot! The toughest part has been the travel and the time required for work pulling me away from home. Several missed events at school; missed pick ups. All of this is so extremely difficult. My husband has been unbelievably supportable through all of this. He helps ground me; knowing I have them always, to come home to, to depend on; helps me make it through all the craziness.
In the last week, I have realized that my new job is giving me something new, something I haven’t necessarily had before. I am managing other managers. Usually I have managed mostly individual contributors. This is new for me, and as I realized, is giving me an opportunity to really do something that I love. I can work and strive to be an influence for people who are responsible for managing teams of people. Our company is going through very tough times; it requires strong leadership skills, new leadership skills. I really am getting to pursue my passion. Helping others and teams be successful, strong, balanced teams. I certainly am in a place that will make this not only necessary — but also hugely challenging.
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Words of Wisdom
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Don’t Quit Till You Have Nothing Left
We can all do more than what we think we can do! Can we be our own coach and drive ourselves to the point that we have nothing left? Till we reach our desires? To continue working with our kids to help them reach adulthood with a good base to make it in our world; to learn and grow?
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Friday Funny – RIGHT FROM THE HEART!!!
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What do you think success is? It is completely subjective, it is different for every person out there. John Maxwell, someone who has been in the business of leadership and success describes his finding. He said it is understanding your purpose in life. Knowing your purpose in life becomes a stability for ones life. It creates true focus and it becomes an anchor in life that becomes a confidence based on a knowledge of purpose.
As I have moved into finding my passions and purpose, I agree with what he says. How about you? What do you think success is?
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Zig was one of the first teachers/motivational speakers I heard and he still is one of my favorite. I want to share some of the notes I have about his thoughts on success!
“Success is never about acquiring what you want in one area of life but in every area of life.”
It is important to balance out your life and to me – I feel that is isn’t so much a balance but the idea of harmonizing. You never really BALANCE – you focus on one area and it will improve and then there will be something else that falls out of the current, but basically to have success one must harmonize the work that they do on themselves in every area of life.
“People often complain about the lack of time, when lack of direction is the real problem”
Without having some clear goals your actions and time are spent floating to what ever might seem most important at the time. Your time ends up being spent on things that are someone’s fire, they could be yours, or perhaps… not. If you live your life always putting out the fires without knowing what direction you are headed it is very possible that the resulting feelings and emotions are overwhelmed. Having goals gives you that direction.
“Staying motivated takes daily work, just like you need a daily bath”
Because what our minds take in is 80% negative (a study that Zig refers to) it is important to ensure we are working with as much motivational and positive stuff that we can. In addition to keeping motivated, keeping up with this spiritual/mental work will help you work with your own self limiting beliefs. “You are what you are and where you are because of what’s gone into your mind – You can change what you are, you can change where you are, by changing what goes into your mind”
“You can have anything in your life you want, if you will just help enough people get what they want”
We are living in a world of teaming and collaboration. If you sincerely and freely help others get what they want, if you work from a place of true service, it will get you where you need to go to do the things that you want to do. And that helps you become the person you want to become.
This Wednesday’s Words of Wisdom brought to you Right From the Heart!
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This is my first Techie Tuesday blog! As I start doing these, I thought I would share and teach some of the things that I do that help save me time. This first blog is about RSS Feeds. I use RSS feeds to get the information I need without having to surf for it, or have a ton of bookmarked places that I go check. This helps by notifying ME when there is new information. I do not need to take time finding the information I need. I have several feeds due to having several interests. I have interests in Personal Development, improving my blogging, social media activity and also I watch new technology; how it could affect my business.
What is an RSS Feed?
RSS stands for Really Simple Syndication. It has also been called Rich Site Summary. It had been started by an individual who worked for Netscape but wasn’t supported by Netscape and was continued in a working group that enhanced and improved it. It is used to feed blog posts, news headlines, and other information in a standardized format. The feed can include a summary or the entire feed. You subscribe to these feeds.
How do you read an RSS Feed?
An RSS feed is read through a “Reader”. A reader is software and aggregates all of the feeds that you subscribe to. The software can be web-based, desk top based or can be read on a mobile device.
What Readers Exist?
There are hundreds of readers! For a great list and comparisons see the great wiki site.
What are the first steps in order to start?
First step is to choose a Reader. I use Google Reader so I will show how to use the Google Reader, but I will also show you how to use the IE (Internet Explorer) built in application as well.
To register for Google Reader, go to www.reader.google.com
Create an Account (If you have a gmail account (or any other google based account) you can use this account.)
Fill out the information required to get started with Google reader.
Verify your account; (Google makes a phone verification to ensure that automated applications are not setting up accounts and access. You will need to send a verification code to your cell phone or have them make a live call with the code.)
You are now ready to subscribe to feeds.
Subscribing to feeds
There are two ways to subscribe; one directly through the site and the other is by copy/pasting the URL into the reader directly.
You find the RSS symbol at most sites, be they blogs, or news sites. If they have the RSS symbol, like my site; you can click on the RSS feed symbol
After you click on RSS different things will occur. If it comes up and gives you different options, Google Reader will be an option. The other scenario is what you see when you click on my RSS you get the following:
After clicking on Subscribe to this feed you will see:
After this point you are subscribed to the feed and will be able to view this feed in the IE reader, but this is not your Google Reader. To view in IE; simply click on the “Favorites Center” shown below:
When you click on that star — you will get a menu that allows you to read it –
This green arrow will then lock this in place and you will then be able to see your subscribed feeds; without adding it to Google Reader.
More on RSS feeds and especially on how to get this added to your Google Reader next Techie Tuesday!!!
Any questions? Please feel free to contact me –
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“All my decisions had brought me growth in one way or another. I learned that taking responsibility for the love, or the lack of love in my life, was the tool through which to create a different experience.”
“Where once I’d been dealing with guilt, I was finding growth; where once I’d been dealing with hate, I was finding compassion; where once I’d been feeling resentful, I was feeling autonomous.”
When I first picked up this book, my first thought was “uh oh”… I often shut down when I hear or see something I consider “religious”. This is something I am learning to be more open minded and tolerant of. Reading this book gives me even more evidence that I should be more open and and a push to be less judgmental! Had I missed out reading this book because of an initial judgment that it was religious I would have been the one that missed out.
As my aim is to do things Right From the Heart, her preface captured my full attention with the first sentence. Betsy Otter Thompson’s first words of the Preface are “The heart is a magical organ.” She goes on to describe how she feels our hearts work independent from our body system. This book is basically her conversation with Jesus made through her heart. She indicates that she “opens her heart, receives a feeling, and lets that feeling express.” Do not expect the book to be historically accurate as that is not the purpose. The book takes and discusses topics; twenty-three of them in total. At the end of each chapter there are a set of questions that deal with the topic just read often leading you to think through something about yourself. After these questions there are some more that lead you to evaluate yourself even more. And at the very end she ends with her own personal insight and what she learned working through the particular topic. This book takes you on an internal spiritual journey that provokes emotions, thoughts and an analysis of yourself.
The title: Walking Through Illusion; refers to the idea that all we have around us is an illusion. It is a life we are living; but we only experience things as we assign meaning to it and that’s it… by changing the meaning we assign the experience we can completely alter our lives. This makes whatever we are dealing with – only an illusion. As she (and Jesus) describe in her book, we are actors working through lessons that we chose to learn and work through prior to entering this specific life. “They were illusionary experiments to expand our hearts so that when we left these dramas, we had the needed emotion for the next performance taking our hearts even deeper.”
I loved all of the chapters, they were all thought provoking; however, I thought I would discuss at a high level a few of my favorites.
Obstacles: What obstacles stymie growth?
“Obstacles enter your life when you deprive others of what you think you deserve.”
This chapter deals with obstacles, whether that be illness or lacking – basically any dis-ease. The key is to realize that all obstacles, no matter what they are – are emotional. This gets back to the illusion again, they aren’t something “out there” they are “in here” and all obstacles offer some type of personal development. Everything offers some type of positive outcome in the end.
Opinions: Can we control our opinions?
Bottom line, this chapter says you respect other’s opinions when you respect your own. As one fault finds; this puts our focus on the thing that is negative and it hurts and it also will cause the mirror to reflect on ourselves what we are inflicting on others. If we find ourselves in judgment it is important to focus on finding who it is we ourselves are judging. This chapter also dealt with blaming; how we often blame our parents. We can’t change our past, but we can change our future thus it is important that we look and decide where we want our future to go. Even if those we are blaming change that will not change our problems, it will improve their life, not ours. We can only deal with us, our emotions and what we-ourselves are dealing with.
Advice: Whose advice is worthy?
“Trust that you are everything you need to be. Trust that life has meaning. Trust that goals have purpose, trust that ‘being’ is enough.”
Because I often get defensive when others try to give me advice (more so for those that are closer to me – like my husband!) this chapter hit home. This chapter points out that we are always mirroring our own behavior. Thus I was urged to look at my own life and understand how often I offer unsolicited advice. Understanding that if I focused on giving others support and only offering advice if asked that I would break through the illusion of having others offer their unsolicited advice. I now see a very interesting illusion in our family. Between my daughter and husband, they are both telling each other how and when and why to do things and I am left out of most of this interaction.
Hearts (of course!): What constitutes a big heart?
“An obsession with the picture to the exclusion of his heart created a mind out of sync with its purpose. A mind out of sync with its purpose created a body out of sync with its purpose. A body out of sync with its purpose had no reason for being.”
This chapter spoke to purpose and legacy, which, is at the top of my list of topics (am teaching it at CFU) so this chapter also resonated with me. It is important to look at the different legacies we want (and perhaps do not want) to leave. I took away from this chapter that it is important to appreciate life and that our bottom line purpose is to look for personal growth and development within our own lives.
Betrayal: Why is betrayal so painful?
“Betrayal is an act of doing in a way you’d hate to be done to.”
My notes from this chapter: If I am resenting others, I am resenting myself. If I resent myself others will resent me. If I resent myself resentment poisons the mind. If it poisons the mind it will poison the body. Basically outward actions reflect an inward action. Betsy’s personal notes captured much of what I felt as well. When you hear the word betrayal you picture something quite bad, but betrayal is basically doing things to others that you do not want done to you… thoughts, judgements, laughs, snickers and any other minor offense counts.
Bottom line – READ THIS BOOK!!!!
About the Author: A native Philadelphian with a B.F.A. from the University of Pennsylvania, Betsy worked as an account executive for WFIL radio in Philadelphia, and from there went to radio stations WPEN and WFLN. After that, she became a commercial print model and acted in television commercials in New York and Philadelphia. For seventeen years, she worked in Los Angeles at the motion picture and television company Castle Rock Entertainment as the Assistant to the Chairman and CEO. In August ‘99, she followed her boss to Warner Bros. as he took a new position there as President and COO, and became his Executive Assistant. She is now writing full time. Betsy’s writing began unexpectedly while going through an especially difficult time in her life. She believes that her books were the answer to her prayers.
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By: Jeffrey David Ringold
The Gift of Love is a groundbreaking work that explores the liberating power of love in the face of life’s inevitable challenges. In addition to themes of optimal self-care and life balance, The Gift of Love tackles controversial issues related to political and religious dogma, and the power of compassionate action.
“A powerful guide for anyone who wants their life to be an expression of the awakened heart and mind.” Tara Brach, author of Radical Acceptance
“When I first read Living Joy, I found it full of insights and stories that woke me up and gave me one “aha” after another. The second time I read it, the same thing happened. How do I live a more loving life – not just a bunch of bumper sticker wisdom, but how do I really, actually live it? This book is a good coach.” Frank Andrews, PhD, author of The Art and Practice of Loving.
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