Life has had many changes for me. As I looked at how to work on finding the balance and joy from life as I have hit many bumps in the road emotionally; I knew I wanted to start up blogging again. What I contemplated was whether to start completely over or to continue here. As I look at my old (WAY old by the way!) posts I believe that the story this blog shows is telling.
I have been one that wants true authenticity. If I started blogging somewhere else in more of a hidden manner that goes against what my heart believes. Is it scary? It really, truly is… Very Scary.
My biggest change; my husband and I separated and then divorced after being together for 19 years. That is a long time to be with someone. This was final in September of 2014. The year up to and including this period of time has been very much a roller coaster ride.
Now it is time to create the life that I want. This life includes my beautiful daughter and working to ensure she has stability and feels nothing but love. This life includes my work, the career of being a leader in the chaotic corporate world and leading others to find balance and joy amidst that environment. This life also includes ME. I have often put ME, last. As I did this, I found myself in situations that I stayed in without thoroughly thinking through.
Welcome to 2014 — Time for renewal – for clear intentions and lots and lots of joy and love!
This is my first Techie Tuesday blog! As I start doing these, I thought I would share and teach some of the things that I do that help save me time. This first blog is about RSS Feeds. I use RSS feeds to get the information I need without having to surf for it, or have a ton of bookmarked places that I go check. This helps by notifying ME when there is new information. I do not need to take time finding the information I need. I have several feeds due to having several interests. I have interests in Personal Development, improving my blogging, social media activity and also I watch new technology; how it could affect my business.
What is an RSS Feed?
RSS stands for Really Simple Syndication. It has also been called Rich Site Summary. It had been started by an individual who worked for Netscape but wasn’t supported by Netscape and was continued in a working group that enhanced and improved it. It is used to feed blog posts, news headlines, and other information in a standardized format. The feed can include a summary or the entire feed. You subscribe to these feeds.
How do you read an RSS Feed?
An RSS feed is read through a “Reader”. A reader is software and aggregates all of the feeds that you subscribe to. The software can be web-based, desk top based or can be read on a mobile device.
What Readers Exist?
There are hundreds of readers! For a great list and comparisons see the great wiki site.
What are the first steps in order to start?
First step is to choose a Reader. I use Google Reader so I will show how to use the Google Reader, but I will also show you how to use the IE (Internet Explorer) built in application as well.
To register for Google Reader, go to www.reader.google.com
Create an Account (If you have a gmail account (or any other google based account) you can use this account.)
Fill out the information required to get started with Google reader.
Verify your account; (Google makes a phone verification to ensure that automated applications are not setting up accounts and access. You will need to send a verification code to your cell phone or have them make a live call with the code.)
You are now ready to subscribe to feeds.
Subscribing to feeds
There are two ways to subscribe; one directly through the site and the other is by copy/pasting the URL into the reader directly.
You find the RSS symbol at most sites, be they blogs, or news sites. If they have the RSS symbol, like my site; you can click on the RSS feed symbol
After you click on RSS different things will occur. If it comes up and gives you different options, Google Reader will be an option. The other scenario is what you see when you click on my RSS you get the following:
After clicking on Subscribe to this feed you will see:
After this point you are subscribed to the feed and will be able to view this feed in the IE reader, but this is not your Google Reader. To view in IE; simply click on the “Favorites Center” shown below:
When you click on that star — you will get a menu that allows you to read it —
This green arrow will then lock this in place and you will then be able to see your subscribed feeds; without adding it to Google Reader.
More on RSS feeds and especially on how to get this added to your Google Reader next Techie Tuesday!!!
Any questions? Please feel free to contact me –
Crush It – Gary Vaynerchuk
Ever since I saw one of Gary’s video’s and heard him on one of the Success Magazine CDs; I had wanted to read his book: Crush It
Although it doesn’t make my tip top favorites, I did enjoy it. I enjoyed it because I love reading about others who are living their passions and Gary is definitely doing that. Not only is he doing it, this is one of his rules. I also admire those that are living authentically and he isn’t out to impress anyone and he walks his talk. He is an early social media adopter and when he doesn’t talk about the three rules he is talking about how to use social media to your advantage.
Gary starts out by talking about passion and how it is everything; he mentions his three rules and advises that everyone adopt them:
- Love your family.
- Work super hard.
- Live your passion.
He explains that he measures success by how happy he is not how big his business is or how much money he has. He said by following these three rules he is 100% happy. Loving your family and working super hard doesn’t take special skills or knowledge, these two rules are about just doing. As you move into the third rule, this is where many people need the direction.
Identify and Test Your Passion
This is about recognizing things that you love and because you love it you know tons about it. Find this thing. Find your passion. Then test it. Can you think of many topics to write or talk about? Are you double sure that what you think is your passion is your passion? [His book doesn’t clearly help here – but there are other ways to work through this!] Lastly ensure that you know about your passion, that you are an expert on it.
Find your brand. Your name or some other nifty, catchy phrase. He advises that even if you use a catchy phrase, brand yourself (your name) as well. After you have determined this then you need to ensure that you start assigning this to social media sites, domain names, blogs, etc. Anything that you can think of; make sure you sign on and grab your name.
Start getting involved in social media. Use Facebook Connect, Facebook and Twitter. Use tools that allow you to post to these sites like ping.fm or TubeMogul.
Create your content. Write, blog, shoot video, make podcasts – whatever you feel you can do well, start doing it. Get a blog – he recommends WordPress or Tumblr. The one place he recommends you spend some money is on the design of your website. Everything else he talks about is very inexpensive and he says that the reason for spending money on the design of your website is due to ensuring that the first impression people get is a good one.
Make Friends – Make Community
Search for and find like minded people, people talking about your passion. Create a community – offer your expertise, share your knowledge and make friends with other that share your passion and those that are looking for answers.
I think that this was a good book and would like to have all the folks that are out there “spamming” others with posts about themselves and their businesses take some time and read how social media should really be done.
Have you read it? What did you think?
In my last blog I talked about changing habits. As I read Self-Coaching by Joseph J. Luciani it became crystal clear that I have become quite the expert at some habits. Some habits that people have are obvious; like over eating or smoking; but there are other habits that we all have that are impacting our lives. In general, many of these are things that if we never changed, we could live a fairly reasonable life for the rest of our lives. If we continue to talk meanly to ourselves about how we should be doing this or should be doing that, we will still live reasonable, secure lives. However, if we want to achieve our dreams, if we want to take a step further towards improved lives; better financially, increased level of happiness and joy – then we could do this by taking a look at ourselves and some of these habits that are keeping us in our comfort zones.
How does a habit become a habit?
It might help to explain the brain a bit. There are two parts of your brain the conscious and nonconscious. I first heard the term nonconscious reading a book by John Assaraf and Murray Smith called The Answer. The term nonconscious is being used only to differentiate itself from the Freudian term unconscious. Basically Freud believed that the unconscious brain had some external force causing it to do something and so to make sure that there was no confusion the cognitive theorists used nonconscious to ensure that it was not confused with Freud’s. Today, the word unconscious is used for both. Our nonconscious or unconscious brain is much more powerful and busy than our conscious. The nonconscious brain controls 96-98% of perception and behavior. 96-98%! No wonder I have had such a difficult time working to improve myself and some things around me.
Our physical and mental habits reside in our nonconscious brains; this is where accomplishments and achievements take root. Habits are things that we have created by repeatedly doing something over and over. Thinking something over and over again becomes a habit of thought. Constantly looking in a mirror and talking to your self about how “bad” you or something is becomes a habit. This habit becomes an attitude or belief over time. And then beliefs become self-fulfilling. A belief is very powerful and we do a lot of protecting our beliefs. As we look in a mirror and the self talk chatter starts, as time moves forward and this happens every time we look into a mirror, eventually the talk that takes place is not actually heard any longer. Suddenly you are believing you are less than perfect or unattractive, Once this is a belief, our self care isn’t as good, our body language changes – our shoulders come forward, we don’t smile as much and generally create some truth out of what started out as very false self talk.
Wow! So this is how things that we are working to break through and overcome have become so entrenched in ourselves that they are things that occur without our thinking about and seem so very difficult to get to. Very difficult to see and to solve. That – and we are working to solve the problem witho our conscious brain. Our conscious brain is not good at modifying our habits – only at stating a goal or desire to do so. Since habits live in our nonconscous that is where they need to be changed.
In order to become successful in our lives and in our attempts to reach dreams and goals we need to work on ourselves. Personal development and personal growth are important to maximizing happiness. The better people we become, the better the world can become. Learning that we need to work at changing the habits and self limiting beliefs in order to move forward has been great information. I do believe my work is cut out for me!
I seem to go through different cycles of the type of reading or things I pay attention to, or perhaps it is the Law of Attraction at work giving me the things I need to hear and read. Recently my attention has been centered more on spirituality. I have been listening to a really great series put on by Feminine Power called Women on the Edge of Evolution. The speakers they have for this are just great and they are all free and downloadable for play. (Click here to register and access the recordings!)
Today I heard a piece that really made me think. It made me think – because of the space I find myself in right now. If you know me or are following the blog you know that I set out on a path 8 months ago to move away from the corporate world. In that, I became very excited about one opportunity that I am involved with. This opportunity led me down a road of education. LOTS of internet marketing and Web 2.0 education. And it has been a blast. I have loved doing this. It also led to reading several books one of which (EMyth) took me deeper into thought around the exact business that I was going to start. (Here is my review of The EMyth Revisited and the review of The EMyth Enterprise.) After reading these books and moving through the education, I have created a slight modification of what I had been originally looking at doing – both in my mind and on paper. Then I hit a vacation, a couple projects at the J.O.B. and another week off and to my surprise and dismay – no real movement forward on my business. I spent my vacations totally unplugged. (Many have said this is a good thing – however – there is a voice inside me saying if I want to start a business then I need to spend some time on it.) I have been vacillating between beating myself up and telling myself all is as it should be. The recording I heard that impacted me so much on this subject was the teleseminar with Mary Manin Morrissey.
The conversation was focused on having ideas, passions and feelings of purpose and the feelings of impatience around this, that can settle in when working towards something new. She said something that made an impact on me and resonated with me. She indicated that every idea, every change, has an evolution. Like everything in our universe – everything has a path that it follows from creation to birth, whether it is a seed that is planted in the ground or a baby growing in a mommy’s tummy. There is a period of time that things go through gestation. This is the time that something sits and prepares to be born. Trees, babies, and yes, even ideas. So, we come down again to patience. Patience has never been easy — I remember hearing “Patience (Patients) are for doctors!” Through this way of thinking about it, I am reminding myself that things take time, not everything can be rushed (to spite how the world pushes everything) and to give myself the ok for this break. When this is ready to be born, things will activate again. I need to focus on what matters and be grateful for all that I have in my life today. Remember the power of NOW!
Would love to hear anyone else’s ideas on how they remain patient waiting for things to take their own time.
Filed under: 30-Day Challenge, No Sugar Challenge
Although the Blog post for the end of this challenge is a bit late, it is nonetheless successfully over. It ended one day prior to our vacation which explains the delay in posting.
This challenge was not difficult for me. I believe the reason that it wasn’t difficult was because I had already cut out all High Fructose Corn Syrup and many other forms of sugar from my diet. I have not been 100% sugar free (one of my downfalls is ice cream!), but have definitely minimized eating it. While on this challenge I was educated that sugar is thought to be the cause for MANY health issues. A friend of mine sent me a link that lists impacts to our health. This link can be found here.
If you needed any motivation to cut back on sugar, this list will do that for you!
This challenge was shared with a friend of mine and she saw her migraines diminish quite a bit. She is an awesome writer and you can see the blog posts of her experience here. She gave me the recipe for a great dried fruit bar as well as a couple of them to help me curb craving. I did not have any major health impacts (including weight loss). Although I did not find this challenge difficult or overly impacting; as soon as my challenge was over I made my way to the nearest DQ!!
Because I learned so much about processed white sugar I will continue to minimize this in my diet!
I welcome any comments and thoughts you might have on this challenge.