It’s Time

December 15, 2010 by · Comments Off
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I ran into this as I was reading comments from one of Darren Hardy’s video blogs.  I thought it was great and wanted to share it with others!

“It’s Time.”

I once asked an old man to say something wise,
and the words that unfolded – were a welcome surprise.
He started by saying, “Tell me, son – What is it you seek?”
“Success in hurry,” I blurted, “because my future looks bleak!”
“Times are tough.” I continued, with a little regret.
Because what he said next, I will never forget.

“If quick success is what you seek to find,
it’s already been found – and it’s a matter of time.
You say ‘times are tough’ – and now look at this clock.
There’s more to these hands than the tick and the tock.
You see only one hand in motion, but I can see all three.
It’s the way all things work, just take it from me.

The ‘Seconds’ hand moves fast, so it’s easy to spot;
Soon you’ll recognize it’s the seed, to plant in your plot.
Most see ‘small’ as insignificant, but I know it’s the start;
for your very life lives with the small beats of your heart.
If those never started, or continued – Then where would you be?
Nothing’s insignificant, you see – because seeds become trees.
Your seeds are the small actions that you must eagerly take;
the seconds sprout into minutes – the right time to cultivate.

Keep on moving here, because it takes time and vital care;
we all know who won the race of the Tortoise and Hare.
It wasn’t because the Tortoise was slow that he won the race,
he proved, ‘steady’ fares better than any back-breaking pace.
Minutes are the well-formed habits that add-up to become Hours,
just like seeds become buds, and then those become flowers.

This is a tough time for many – in fact, most will quit.
See, our culture has taught that good results must always come quick.
‘If you’re doing it right – you’ll see results right away.’
But, that’s not the way things work – I’m sorry to say.
Cultivation comes before the harvest – It has always been this way!

As the Seconds become Minutes, soon the Hours will begin to pass.
You’re on the track to success, just check your looking glass.
Your looking glass is in your mind’s eye – and only you can see it there,
Look there for your results, or else you’ll begin to look elsewhere.
Consistency with a purpose is what you are after,
and vision for outcomes is what you will master.
The fruit of the harvest, has arrived in your mind,
taste it, and feel it – it’s the best of it’s kind.
Hours and fruit, you’ll have all you need,
Minutes of nourishment, and Seconds of seed.

Although success can’t be hurried, it can be assured.
Don’t be like the others – who’s vision got blurred.
The key to getting started, is to start right away.
Don’t be like the rest – getting started ‘someday’.
Someday never comes, I can say without doubt.
See the tears in my eyes? My time has run out.

Success is not a secret: You have all you need!
It’s your time to get started: Now you are my seed!
You’ve asked for success, and now have the keys in mind,
it’s not about talent, luck, or even hard work – you’ll find;
Success is just a series of simple small steps, repeated in time.”

~ By Tobias Sedillos

Designing The Next 10 Years

January 19, 2010 by · Comments Off
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designIt has been a couple weeks since my last post and SO much is going on.  This post will center on a great program I started offered through Darren Hardy’s Success.com site. So far it has been two weeks of self analysis.  (It is an 8 week program and you can sign up to get the exercises (during the 8 weeks) – Click here to sign up)

The program started out by having me review the last 10 years, looking at my milestones,  risks and regrets.  It is amazing what has happened in the last 10 years.  I have had a beautiful daughter; we have moved from New York City to Denver, purchased our first home, I have held a Director position, was laid off; started over in a technical support role after 9 months of unemployment, was promoted to a manager within 2 years and as I worked to move my way up the ladder I held leadership roles in the women’s diversity group and… started my own company.   Just think  – if all this happened in 10 years without goals; what can happen in 10 years with goals!

The next part had questions and blanks to fill in about what I am grateful for.  The next tasks were a look at strengths, weaknesses, opportunities and threats; there was an exercise to look at how balanced (or like I learned from James Ray – harmonized) my life is.  Each category had several questions and I rated each question ipacmann each category; added up each category and then the total was graphed.  My graphed out answers made a PacMan.  This tells me I have done a really great job harmonizing my life in all categories but one – Financial.  James Ray, in his book Harmonic Wealth (Click here for a review of the book), teaches how balance is bogus; harmony should be the goal.  It is like music, at one moment all instruments may be playing together and the next the drums will stop; and then… the drums start back up.  This is our goal in life – to have all the areas of our life playing in harmony and be ok when one area isn’t playing at full level.  This exercise showed me I do need to focus some time on the financial part of my life.  Thus as I work through this eight week program I will be adding some financial goals to what I had already put together for this years goals. 

One final task was to send some questions to 3 people that are close to me.  There were three questions they were to answer.  1)  What skill or attribute gives me an advantage in life? 2) What one thing could help me better succeed with people and in life? 3) What behaviors, lack of discipline or attitudes do you think hold me back?  As of now I have not gotten back all the responses; however what I have gotten back has led me to some major self talk, analysis and time in thought. 

One response was that I do not thoroughly look at all sides of an issue prior to taking an opinion.  

My initial surface thoughts

  • this came from an individual that I avoid conflict with
  • the conversations referred to; happened over email

As I worked through this, my major objective was to see how I can benefit (and not point fingers or get defensive) from this feedback.  The conclusions I have come to are:

  1. My avoidance of conflict and speaking my own mind and opinion is something that I want to be better with.
  2. Past child hood pains (fear of the withdrawal of love when not meeting others expectations) is something I need to acknowledge and resolve as best I can.  Love myself!
  3. Improving my communication skills; being able to describe my authentic feelings and thoughts in such a way that do not come across defensively.

 The other response that I struggled with, and still am in many ways, was that I have rose colored glasses and that by being too Pollyanna others will not take me seriously… and also that I am doing “too much”; That I am trying to be super woman and that if I do this I will not be able to do things well.

 I have, myself, considered that I might be trying to do too much.  However, when I look at how my life is coming together right now; how some things I have been doing have led to ideas, to people and to other paths that have opened up new avenues – I think that my life – as busy as it is – is just perfect.  The things that I value the most; my family and personal growth are not being impacted.  My work/play takes place during the normal work day and early in the morning.  I am picking up my daughter almost every day from school and from this moment until we go to sleep is family time.  We have dinner together; we play games and enjoy each others company.  During the few times the TV goes on, I will pick up my computer but outside of that – work/play is placed to the side while we are all together.  My physical exercise is also something that I will not allow to be impacted by the tasks I am involved in.  Everything else – is getting done.  I have prioritized them and there are a couple of things towards the very bottom of the list that are not getting done as well as they could, however it is a very conscious decision.   I feel that what is happening here is that I am starting to do things that many others see as risky and that they don’t understand.  As I was contemplating this, I read a blog post from T Harv Eker; and in that post was the following message:

“… at some point we’ve got to tell the ego that it’s okay to step into the unknown and dare to be different. Think of all the people throughout history that, if they hadn’t stepped “outside the lines,” we’d have never evolved as quickly as we did. We’d still think the world was flat, or that the universe revolves around us, or that “normal” people couldn’t do amazing things.

When you stop playing it safe, your spirit is free to grow, expand and create.  Individual, family and social “rules” don’t apply.

It takes guts to be different; to stand out from the crowd; to break free from the “clone drone” society and be a true individual.

When others criticize you for doing something “different” it’s usually because they’re scared. Inside, they’re secretly stoked that you’re breaking free. They’re just frustrated with themselves for lacking the courage to do the same. Be their inspiration!”

As is usual, something comes to me and I see it as an answer to my contemplation and this was the answer for me on the “doing too much” comment.  I am going to continue doing the amount of things I am doing as long as this does not conflict with my values, I am good.  As far as the Pollyanna comment?  The mind is still contemplating this one!  Would love to hear your comments – Do you think that people that are optimists and “too nice” are people that don’t get taken seriously?