Thinking

September 21, 2010 by · Comments Off
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“Change requires action, not reflection; motivation, not passivity; desire, not apathy; and a willingnes to see the truth rather than fiction. But most important, change requires that you recognize that no one and nothing is going to change you- except you.” –Joseph J. Luciani

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I am writing this on a plane… on the way to Atlanta on a business trip.  I actually love airplane flights, they give me time to read or often, time to just think.  Thinking is something that happens all the time, but on a plane, it can be directed thinking.  I just finished reading Self-Coaching by Joseph J. Luciani.  As I have been working through my part in the problems in my life I continue to work on how I can move beyond some of the self sabatoging things I do.

As I am working through how to personally grow and work towards a life where I am working in the personal development industry I know that working and growing myself will always be something I concentrate on. I have been doing this type of work for almost 20 years.  I liked Self Coaching – I liked the book because I know that for me what so many things boil down to, is my thinking and my self talk.  Much of my thinking is unconscious; however as I have focused in on my self, I seem to be getting to a place where I am starting to become much more conscious of my thinking.  I know that as I grow and think about helping others do the same I believe one key is to start hearing and knowing the throughts that are going through my head.  I am often really hard on myself and haven’t recognized it.  Now that I am recognizing it, it hurts. I have felt sadness over this and some anger – anger at circumstances that helped form this; but then there is realization that I have control.  I have full control to change myself and my thinking so that I can get to the place I am trying to reach.  Circumstances and things in my life are just that; I can choose to accept them and learn to realize that I don’t have to continue reacting the same way to them.  I choose to step out and make the necessary changes to myself that will allow me take my life where I want to go.

One thing that this book said that I resonated with is that negative self talk, thinking and self sabatage is a habit.  It is something I started doing very young and have really learned to do very well.  I am an expert at it; so expert, that it has become natural.  This book has taught me that I need to break these habits.  There are habits of guilt that arise from thinking that I should do this and that I should do that.  There are habits of not supporting myself; feeling deep down that I can not succeed at something that I really love; or that I may not be worthy of the success. 

It isn’t that I haven’t had success – I have been very successful at many things in my life; however – as I strive to achieve the goal of working my passion I seem to stop before I  try; I keep changing directions and having too many things to do and not taking enough action. 

To me, Self Coaching suggests to first recognize that the struggling of life is due to the habits that we have formed as we have tried to control life.  It suggests working on identifying the faulty thoughts that we think about things and to separate fact from fiction.   The next step is to realize that you can choose to flip a switch and change the faulty thinking and turn the self talk to truths and see and believe the positive side of things. Then, it suggests to let go. Just let the thoughts that are sabatoging our life float away, like a balloon caught in the air drifing away.  Then you need to ensure that you are working to believe the positive aspects of your life, having positive thoughts alone will not work, there needs to be a point where you BELIEVE the positive aspects of life.  As this happens and successful challenges can be met, you will gain some energy that will allow you to keep up with the new way of doing things so that over time, the old habits of faulty thinking will be changed to a new habit of thinking and seeing the reality of life.  That there is always a way to work your way out of any hole. You can do it.

Luciani pointed out that there are three truths:

  • Let Life Unfold, there are no dead ends; only obstacles.
  • Trust that your instincts and intuition will serve you
  • Know that every problem has a solution although it may not immediately appear.

“Motivation isn’t mysterious. It’s the energy you feel when you are willing to risk believing that you can change your life.” – Joseph J. Luciani

I am willing to risk this belief, anyone with me?

New Release: Life By Design

May 12, 2010 by · 1 Comment
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New Release: Life By Design by: Tom Ferry

6 Steps To An Extraordinary You!

Writing this book is the culmination of 20,000 hours of coaching clients on choosing to have a life–By Design. It is full of valuable and unforgettable lessons that I wanted to share with the world. I’ve been given unprecedented insight about what kills performance or what stops people from truly living a life that they really, and I mean really, love. I believe that one of my missions in life is to touch people’s lives in a way so they can benefit from my experience and expertise on how to live their best life–By Design. The most effective way to fulfill my dream was to write this book, which will not only impact people in a positive way, but will also empower them to do the little things that create the necessary shift to make their lives extraordinary.

There is another reason I wrote this book–and this one is more personal. I am the father of two boys who I strive to be the most exceptional role model for. There have been many times in my life where I have faced massive adversity or found myself having to make some very difficult decisions. The first thought that comes to my mind in those situations is always, “if I weren’t here to finish raising these two boys, what would I want them to know so they could go on with their lives and become extraordinary men?”

Some of the most important and poignant life lessons I have learned are among the many stories I share in Life! By Design–which I consider to be a blueprint for my boys to get to where they will want to go in life. It isn’t the story of how I got to where I am so much as a treasure map meant to lead you toward achieving whatever it is you desire in your own life, whether it’s a loving, passionate relationship, a career you excel in because you actually enjoy what you’re doing for work, or having great health and vitality.

Whatever you desire, Life! By Design will help you get there. It isn’t easy and it will challenge you in ways that may make you think twice, but I promise you one thing. If you read and then apply the basic principle’s contained in the pages of my book, you will be infinitely happier and more content and you will learn to take responsibility for your life so you can go out and become the best you that you were meant to be. Are you ready for change? Are you ready to be challenged? Are you ready to live… By Design?