Why Must They Always Be Right?
Being Right – Is it THAT Important??
I am dealing with something this week that I can’t seem to let go, so I thought I would write about it – that always seems to help me get my mind in order.
Dealing with someone that always has to be right can potentially lead you to believe that you are not accepted for who you are. Part of my work right now is working to know that I am worth it – that I matter. So running into people like this for me, are challenging me and making me think harder about this issue.
My thoughts this week have been centered on why is it that there some people that press things and have to be right? I have a couple people that have crossed my path this week that are in my life on a regular basis but for some reason this week, that are hitting my frustration button. Maybe it is because one of them challenged my 7 year old daughter, who was actually right. My daughter can often press that SHE is right about something that I clearly know she is wrong about. But this situation was different, she was right. (OK, so now I am sounding like I have to be right! Hmmmm??) There are different things that happen, there are some times when someone insists that they are right and you know, like you know you are alive, that they are wrong, then there are times when it is clearly opinion and is something that everyone argues about all the time (religion, politics, abortion, etc) I am normally able to just let it go. I thought that if I reviewed the reasons why letting go is good, it would help me this week!
Letting it go – Why does it help you?
Time Management: By not having to be right – you gain a lot more time. In our busy lives t
here is a huge incentive to letting things go. Instead of spending time on hopping on the Internet to find why you are justified and right, putting together the email that shows how you are right and then reading whatever rebuttal is sent back, you have all that time to put towards something much more important. Why waste time trying to establish why you are right? Is it that big of a deal in the big scheme of life? Save yourself some time – Let it go!
Stress Management: Whenever we work on proving ourselves right; there is a level of conflict that arises. Sometimes this is anger and more often it is frustration. It has been proven in studies that stress impacts our health. If we can let things go and not have to prove we are right all the time our stress levels will reduce and we will be healthier.
Stronger Relationships – By always having to be right instead of letting things slide; one tends to have rockier relationships; at the very least they will be less authentic. Many times I will avoid people that need to be proving something all the time. It isn’t enjoyable to be around someone that needs to be right. And at other times, I avoid even offering my opinion because it isn’t worth it which means the other person doesn’t REALLY know me. We can improve our relationships by letting others have their opinion and knowing inside that we are right.
Ego Management – By letting things go and choosing not to argue about something; help
s keep that “ego” part of ourselves in check. Keep in mind that there are MANY definitions of ego and here I mean that defensive part of ourselves, that seems to often be in a fight or flight mode. The more we exercise management of the defensive monkey brain turf thing, the stronger we become within ourselves.
It’s important to choose your battles! There are times that you should stand up! When someone is crossing your boundaries and wants you to do something, and you feel it is wrong, yes – you should stand up and ensure that you always do what feels right for you.
OK, that feels better – - anyone have any other ideas why letting go of needing to be right helps?
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Enjoy The Journey!
We have wants and desires and we want them now. We put pressure on ourselves and our desires. Right 
NOW! Our culture is full of over spending and debt due to a lack of self discipline and a need for instant gratification. It is full of people who work to start businesses but can’t get them going and then they blame others. We start moving towards our dreams and goals and because it doesn’t happen quickly enough we stop; we give up. We often stop dreaming or wishing for things to be different because the stress associated with our lack of patience drives us to start living life day to day without the dreams and wishes that can lead us down paths towards a better life.
“Impatience is only another form of resistance. It is resistance to learning and changing. When we demand that it be done right now, completed at once, then we don’t give ourselves time to learn the lesson involved with the problem we have created.” Louise Hay
I’d like to suggest that we look at everything we want like a vacation. We would not look forward to a vacation, have the first day get there, and then go to work that day. We would not look at a destination and then not take the steps, or the car, or the airplane to get to our destination. We must make the journey. We must get in the car, the airplane, or take the steps towards that destination.
Looking forward to vacation we get excited and anxious for the first day to arrive. We get more done on that last day before vacation than several days combined prior. Then the day arrives, WE ARE ON VACATION!! We head to an airport, or we pack the car or perhaps we just sleep in. Each day, each sight we drink in and savor and as it comes to an end we get mixed feelings. Some sadness that it’s ending but also some relief that we are getting back to our routine.
In the journey we need to savor the daily events, the things we see, the giggles and laughing and bird song that we hear, the people that we meet and the learning of new things we would not have learned or done had we not had to wait for that end desire.
“Do not judge the journey by the path you’re now on: Like driving cross country you can’t possibly know in advance if or where you may encounter detours, hairpin turns or passing cars with noses and whatnot pressed to the window; moreover little if any of the scenery you travel through will remotely resemble the destination you have in mind yet neither the constellations you see, nor the unexpected maneuvers you take will ever mean you aren’t headed exactly where you want to go as swiftly as possible getting closer every flippin day.” Mike Dooley
Yes, sometimes it DOES take a long time…but look at it this way… you get more opportunity for learning new things, doing new things and meeting new people all of which will help you have a better end result.
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3 Ways To Improve Your Life
Everyone has challenges.
Everyone has problems.
Everyone has road blocks.
Everyone has conflict.
Everyone experiences a rocky road from time to time.
Not everyone works on making their life better.
Not everyone decides to own their part of their problems.
Everyone that decides to own their part of their problems makes their life better.
There are millions of ways to make improve your life, but here are 3 actions you can take that steps towards making your life better.
Taking ownership or accountability for your problems.
It is only when you look at things in your life and decide to change yourself and the things that you control that things can take a turn. You can’t change other people – you can only change yourself. Give up all excuses; give up blaming and complaining.
Looking for the root cause/core issues.
It is likely that a cause of the problems in your life have to do with resentment, fear, criticism or guilt. By looking at the problems you have in your life you can start to uncover the core issues. This is a bit easier said than done. Looking at ourselves and trying to see through our limiting beliefs is much harder than judging others experiences. Start by noticing themes. Do you always meet people that do X to you? Is Y always happening? Once you find a theme; look to see how you feel about the transgression. Think back to being a kid – did you ever have this same feeling? Once you can start pinpointing the core issues you can start working on the healing.
Choosing to be positive.
Choosing to be positive does not mean you ignore reality; it doesn’t mean you don’t work at fixing things that are not right. What it does mean is that you realize that there isn’t anything that you can do about something that has already happened except for change the way you look at it right NOW. Look for the positives in what happened and look for the ways to try and heal yourself. Many times this starts with forgiveness.
What are your feelings on these steps? There are many things that one can do, but we all need a place to start… how about with these 3 ways to improve your life?
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3 Ways to Move From Unconscious to Conscious Thinking
Have you ever done something and looked back and wondered why the heck it happened? For ins
tance – ever eat too much and wonder why you didn’t stop at that first helping? Or ever get back from shopping and know that you spent more than what you had planned on spending? What has been the answer to the “Why?”? I would be willing to bet that the answer is often, “I don’t know”; or “I guess I just wasn’t thinking!”. And these are the answers IF the question is even asked.
We are very busy; there never seems to be enough time in a day. The list of things that we want to get done often never get touched. We are rushing here and rushing there; taking care of the home, our jobs and our families.
This week the topic of unconscious verses conscious thinking came up in several areas of my life. What is unconscious thinking? This is when we are not aware of the thoughts that are going through our heads. Our inner intuitive voice gets shut out and is rarely heard during this kind of thinking.
While thought is unconscious our decisions become decisions that we would not make had we been actually 
THINKING. If we aren’t really THINKING we make bad decisions. Good decisions are made when we can see and recognize the consequences. If we are thinking unconsciously, we aren’t asking ourselves what will happen IF. We don’t even think in terms of consequences. Part of personal development and improvement of our lives requires that we find out how to always be conscious and mindful of our thoughts. Thoughts create things!
We can eat healthier if we consciously eat: we will recognize when we are not hungry any longer; we will make better and healthier food decisions. (Read “Mindless Eating” by Brian Wansink for some interesting insights to other things that occur while eating without thinking)
We will be more productive if we consciously make decisions: instead of hitting that snooze button we will recognize that it is better for us to get an early start on the day. Waking up a little bit early to exercise or meditate, or get started on a project will ensure our success in reaching goals.
We will communicate better if we are thinking consciously when we speak to others: if we are fully present in our conversations we will recognize when others may not hear us the way we intended. If we recognize these misunderstandings early we can improve all of our releationships.
3 Methods to move from Unconscious to Conscious thinking
Be in the now: While your mind is thinking about the future your unable to pay close attention to what is going on with you now. While you are beating yourself (or others) up over the past your now will be gone - wasting energy and not focusing on and ensuring your now is perfect. Not being in the now only sets you up for continuing the cycle of worrying about the future and “what if’-ing” about the past.
Meditate: Meditation has been proven to slow ones thinking down. Meditating will help you suddenly find spaces between your thoughts that had not been there before, giving you time to make the decisions that are right for you, making sure you start hearing your inner intuitive voice.
Slow Down: I heard this week that we often feel that life is about nouns and verbs, but if we look at life being about the punctuation, the periods, the commas and exclamation points we can pause and not only enjoy what the experience is at the moment but make room for the conscious thinking that helps us improve our lives.
I would love to hear other techniques on how you have been able to start slowing down enough to think consciously – Please feel free to comment!
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The Power – by Rhonda Byrne NEW RELEASE
The Power by Rhonda Byrne
The Secret revealed the law of attraction. Now Rhonda Byrne reveals the greatest power in the universe — The Power to have anything you want. In this book you will come to understand that all it takes is just one thing to change your relationships, money, health, happiness, career, and your entire life. Every discovery, invention, and human creation comes from The Power. Perfect health, incredible relationships, a career you love, a life filled with happiness, and the money you need to be, do, and have everything you want, all come from The Power. The life of your dreams has always been closer to you than you realized, because The Power — to have everything good in your life — is inside you. To create anything, to change anything, all it takes is just one thing…THE POWER.
About the Author
Rhonda Byrne’s intention is to bring joy to billions. She began her journey with The Secret film, viewed by millions. She followed with The Secret book, a worldwide bestseller now available in 46 languages. Now, with The Power, Rhonda Byrne reveals the single greatest force in our Universe.
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Truth, Triumph, and Transformation
New Law of Attraction Book – Truth, Triumph, and Transformation
Author: Sandra Anne Taylor
Are you frustrated with the way things have been going for you lately? Tired of simplistic approaches to magnetism and success? The truth is, there’s more to the process than most people realize. The source of your destiny goes much deeper than just your thoughts. Other important factors, like natural cycles, shared consciousness, karma, environment, and your soul’s intention, will influence what you draw to your life.
In this enlightening book, Sandra Anne Taylor examines the many elements of destiny creation, and separates the reliable facts from the confusing fiction that has built up around the Universal Laws. She offers a unique and comprehensive understanding as to why things really happen, empowering you to triumph over difficult cycles without self-blame or fear. No matter what obstacles you may encounter, your consciousness can turn adversity into great opportunity! Let go of the lies . . . and learn the whole truth. Your life will be transformed like never before!
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Feeling Stuck?
Shift: A Woman’s Guide to Transformation By: Tracy Latz and Marion Ross
Are you feeling stuck? In your relationship? In your physical condition? In your Life? Would you like to remove the obstacles in your path that keep you from experiencing more joy and Love?
Shift: A Woman’s Guide to Transformation gives you specific practical tools and exercises to assist you in removing the self-sabotaging roadblocks that prevent you from creating the life you choose to live. At the end of each key, the authors provide real-life examples of people who have used their concepts and techniques to transform their lives.
About the Author
Dr. Latz received her Medical Doctorate at Wake Forest University, Master of Science at Georgetown University, and her Doctorate in Holistic Healing and Metaphysics as Delphi University. She is an associate clinical professor of Psychiatry at Wake Forest University Medical Center. She is also a Reiki Master, EFT practitioner, and certified in Mind-Body Medicine through NICABM, Color and Sound Therapy, and Holistic Healing. Dr. Latz is Board-Certified and has a thriving private practice in Integrative Psychiatry in Mooresville, North Carolina.
Dr. Ross holds a doctorate in Holistic Healing, Metaphysics, and Transpersonal Psychology from Delphi University. She received her BA with honors from the University of Denver and completed the Master of Science program in International Relations at the London School of Economics. She is also a certified Reiki Master, EFT practitioner, and a Color and Sound Healer. Dr. Ross holds a Mind-Body Medicine Certification from NICABM. She has successful private practices in Paris, France and New York City.
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