Self Limiting Beliefs

October 15, 2010 by · 7 Comments
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What are Self Limiting Beliefs?

 The topic for the last few weeks has been about dealing with controlling people, dealing with the controlling aspect of ones self, habits, and unconscious and conscious thinking.  My mind has been centered on the topic of self limiting beliefs. 

One way to determine what your self limiting beliefs are is to look at your life. Really analyze it, take out the microscope and look at each area of your life, the physical, financial, your relationships and career.  Are all of these areas moving in exactly the way you want them? Do you have a body that is fit and in shape and have you established habits that will keep it that way?  Are you out of debt and have the money to do the things that you want to do?  Are you set for your retirement?  Do you have money for your children’s school?  How are your relationships?  With your spouse, your kids, your family, friends?  And are you doing what you want to do in your life? Do you feel completely fulfilled?  If any of these areas are not where you want them, then you are experiencing an area where you have self limiting beliefs. 

I found that determining exactly WHAT self limiting beliefs I had was very difficult.  I heard that I needed to change them years ago, but how did I know what self limiting beliefs I had??  if I knew they were self limiting I guess I wouldn’t stll have them?  I realized recently that the reason I had such a big problem with this was because I have issues with actually hearing my own self talk.  All of this self talk was totally happening in my nonconscious or so it seemed.  If you are unable to hear your chatter, chances are you are having the same difficulty.

How do you determine what the self limiting beliefs are if you can’t hear your chatter? 

Understand YOU

The one thing about making a commitment to work on yourself and then taking action and doing small things to improve your life, leads to an improved relationship with yourself.  I am now beginning to hear or recognize that self talk; but that didn’t happen over night. 

Focus on the Nonconscious brain

Because we need to change the habits, change the years of our self limiting beliefs; it is important to start working on the unconscious brain.  If we know we are lacking in certain areas of our life, we know we have self limining beliefs but we often don’t know what they are.  This is actually ok.  The unconscious brain is busier and more powerful than our conscious brain.  So if we focus on changing the nonconscious brain we will, by default, be working on the self limiting beliefs and habits.

We are so lucky to have so many teachers out there teaching us ways to do this.  Science is even studying this area.  The key is to start working on your nonconscious brain. 

 Changing your Nonconscious Brain

 As my posts have been describing our nonconscious brains are extremely powerful.  They are where our habits are created and stored.  This is where self limiting beliefs are created and stored. I first heard of this from Jack Canfield and then again from John Assaraf.  They both describe a study done by NASA.  NASA made astronauts in training wear a set of glasses that turned the world around them upside down.  They were made to wear these glasses for 24 hours a day, 7 days a week.  What they found surprised them at the time.  They found that after 21-30 days that the astronauts that wore these glasses continuously, suddenly had a switch.  Apparently their brains automatically flipped their world back.  Their brains were trained to turn the world back around right side up even though they were wearing these glasses.  They also found that if anyone removed the glasses ,before this 21-30 day interval, they would have to start completely over and go through another 21-30 day interval to have this phenomena occur.

John Assaraf spent time finding out why this happened and what he found out was that our brains have a RAS (Reticular Activating System).  This is basically a way for our brains to create pathways.  These pathways become the nonconscious beliefs (empowering or self limiting) and the habits (good and bad). That we create.  By working with this system we can change the self limiting beliefs and habits that we want to.  (There is a wiki site explaining this sytem more scientifically for those that wish to follow up on this work.)

The following are some ways and some resources that can assist you in taking steps to work on your nonconscious brain.

Vision Boards

In The Secret; John Assaraf explains how vision boards worked for him; how he had cut out a picture of his dream house and 5 years later unknowningly found himself in that exact home.  Vision boards can be done on poster board, they can be put together in a notebook that you can look through on a regular basis.  I also wrote an article on how to put together a vision board (I called it a vision jpeg) that could be the background of your computer screen.  This article can be found here.

Subliminal Audio and Visual

There are different ways to create subliminal audio and visual tools.  The following are some great ideas if you dont feel like creating your own.  One of these provides you the ability to change the affirmations so that they are custom for you. 

A wonderful application that you can load on your PC and have it run through a set of subliminal applications is called MindMaster.   This application can be customized so that the subliminal messages are yours and they can include words and pictures.  I have been using this myself and have seen awesome results with changing eating habits and also persistence and determination around moving my business forward.  They offer a free trial to try it out.  Click here to get more information.

Another example of something you can put together with your own images, music and words is called Mind Movies.  Click here to find out more information on how you can build a movie that you watch daily that has been customized with pieces that will drive you personally. 

YouTube has some great examples but they wont be fully customized for you personally but are free and are very well done.  Click here for an example on YouTube

As you can see there are so many ways to use some great technology and applications that can assist you in moving the habits and self limiting beliefs to ones that will empower you and assist you in living the

Personal Development Journey – December 18, 2009

December 18, 2009 by · Comments Off
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pers devSince I last posted we have hit our busy time of year. My daughter’s birthday is at the beginning of the month, the schools Holiday Fair is at the beginning of the month and now Christmas is upon us. I love this time of year. My daughter turned 7 this month and we had several celebrations. Her party was held at a local recreation center with a pool and included her female classmates. We ended up with 13 wonderful, giggly, excited little girls and 3 parents (due to a limitation on people at the rec center – in hindsight… I should have broken the rule!) Although handling the girls exit from the pool was challenging the rest of the party went off well. Aliera was happy, the girls were happy and the parents seemed happy.

As far as business accomplishments this last couple week, with my time being dedicated to the fun December events there have been only a few tangible results with both the business and also at the corporate job. I am not concerned with the plateau at this time. The biggest work the last couple weeks has been mental. There is an underlying theme to what I have been working through and I can see Law of Attraction at work. As I mentioned in my 30 day challenge posts (first break, second break) as well as my  Breakthrough event in Cancun, I have ran into a realization that I am not always connected to the present. I am not IN me at all times and the result is that I make decisions without thinking and I do things without always being fully present. I wasn’t sure where I was going to go to work on this and get better around this, however I have felt confident that the Universe would deliver and it definitely has.. in a couple differesogrnt ways. First off, my audio downloads I have been listening to: Wallace D. Wattles’ Science of Getting Rich (mentioned in the last Play by Play blog post) and Eckhart Tolle’s Findhorn Retreat. And thirdly, I belong to a group that meets monthly to discuss things around what I like to call personal development “stuff” – spiritual metaphysical pursuits, etc. and because of our last meeting I am reading through Ram Dass’ Be Here Now. (By the way, you can download The Science of Getting Rich by Wallace D. Wattles for Free from HERE)

All three of these things are supporting each other and answering part of my needs. All three of these talk about being present and being in the NOW. They talk about doing what you do today with thoroughness and no expectation or feelings of need/desire from tomorrow.  Science of Getting Rich talks about envisioning what you want. This is also part of the Asking in Law of Attraction. I spent time on two thivision boardngs this week (as it relates to the new business) and that is continuing to study the three materials and the envisioning. I have been wanting to put together a vision board for at least a year, but have had a couple blocks with it. 1) Finding the pictures I need in the magazines I get and 2) Time to spend really looking for other magazines for the pictures to cut out and then assemble the vision board. So, I came up with the idea of the Vision JPEG.   I wrote an article on how to put this Vision JPEG together if you have any interest!

I have also outlined some 2010 goals. I have put together a list of goals and written them down and do monthly and daily work towards them. This is the first year I will have GOALS and not a resolution (although I haven’t done a resolution for years!) I put together an entire list of my goals within the last year, but didn’t start 2009 with them. With this change in my life and even prior to this there was a realization that having goals and having them written down is important and has made a huge difference in my life and what I am able to accomplish.

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Some of my key 2010 goals are:
* Run a 5K by June
* Do 11 30 Day Challenges
* Finish my Goals E-book
* Go to NY for Thanksgiving
                                              * Redo our upstairs Bathroom – November